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Time and time again I get to speak to women who are trying to figure out where they stand in their relationship. They are left confused because they want to believe the words coming out of his mouth are true. Yet when the time comes for him to step up and show her he means it, his actions or lack thereof have her questioning what in the world is really going on here.
Because he is telling you a lie …plain and simple. I understand there are some men who struggle with showing their love. I am not dismissing the possibility of this, but as you continue to read I will show you how the situation still needs to be handled in a similar Who loves you but doesn t show it to the liar.
I could tell a woman that I would fly to the end of the earth to go see her. There are some men who will say whatever is necessary to keep you around, and drag you along for the ride. I know many of you are thinking how this is just horrible. How could a man be so selfish and not just let that woman go in fairness to her. Well I have a question for you. If you applied for and got hired by a job which then proceeded to let you do whatever you wanted. You can come when you want, and put minimal effort into your work. Despite your poor performance they will still give you a full paycheck every two weeks.
Just please understand how tempting it is for a person to take advantage of this. You can wait for them to take the high road or you can put the power in your hands and do what is best for you. This book is helping women everywhere:. So that already works against the chances that this man has a genuine issue. If he is genuine about his issue then the key is him making an effort.
Pick up the damn phone and call your woman sometimes, end of story. I mean his unwillingness to make adjustments when you give specific requests is a huge red flag. He is making excuses and you should embrace that you deserve better. If you feel you should try to help him then do it as his friend. Not as the woman who gives him everything while you receive nothing or not much so no friends with benefits. Ultimately this boils down to this; is this guy willing to be the man you need. Is he willing to put the same effort you are prepared to put into this relationship.
We all have our off days but is the guy consistently good with some days off or consistently bad with some good days sprinkled in there. If he is the latter than it is likely you should walk away. When he is ready to step up with actions and not some sweet talk, then you can consider entertaining being with him. You have to embrace your worth as a woman and what you deserve from a man. If you accept less than you will get less and it is your responsibility to correct that. Stephan…I am in this situation right now.
It is very difficult to keep hearing this, but thank you…. Thank God for Stephan and this blog. This is exactly as valid the other way around: from a woman in a mans eyes. Great perspective! I insist on being courted at least that long and I will refuse to be in a committed relationship in less time than that.
This was me for a few yrs on and off with my ex. I believe he truly loved me but his actions did NOT support his love 4 me as his woman. I was no rosy peach I had my issues as well but I know how I felt, what I observed and what I did not like that was happening with us. We even tried counseling.
During those brief sessions I came to see that he did NOT want to come to true grips with whatever it was he was struggling with inside himself. One big closed shell that did refused to open up. Sad part is he was the one that suggested the counseling. There was nothing I could do to help him but something he had to do alone. Eventually I moved on, never looked back. I am much happier. Still single but happy! SO glad that you realized that it was not your job to fix him, and that you deserve better, much better.
I just prayed for you to find a good man that treats you like a queen. Settle for nothing less. This has helped me so much. I knew this all along but I kept making up excuses for him, I been with a guy for a year and he told me everything I wanted to hear, moved in with me, then started showing his true colors. I been over it and I know I deserve better. Do I wait until he comes back or move on now? I would just encourage you to communicate this to him and be open and honest about how you feel. He says he Loves me, yet questions my love…drops comments like if you Love me you would do this r do that for me.
Even my teenagers tell me he is selfish andI deserve better, yet I Fell in Love with him. You should talk to him and express your concerns in a loving and positive manner. I cant believe thst he would ever do such to me, or even fall out of love… just so difficult to believe thst. We keep trying on the days I am not ignored usually one of us calls it because it seems to be going nowhere. Weve been together for almost 10 years, and have 2 children together….
I love him so much. Stephan, what advice do you have on what actions a woman should take in this case, especially if you are in a relationship? What to do or say for example? I believe the best thing to do is express how you honestly feel. This may lead to a woman having to walk away from that relationship. You just described my partner, the mother of my children.
I am faithful, loyal, and great dad. Others say she should be the happiest person on Earth. Yet she say she loves me but her actions are completely opposite. No court would ever separate them. I love her so much, Who loves you but doesn t show it this loneliness and pain is so much. I usually focus on one gender at a time but this can go either way as you have expressed.
Either way you may have to take a few steps back in order to get the clarity you need or for her to make the necessary progress to move things in a better Who loves you but doesn t show it. If you need to discuss this further send me an at advice stephanspeaks. Excellent Excellent article.
Thank you for offering this terrific information. Btw — that picture speaks volumes! I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he has been talking to me so horribly as if i mean nothing but dirt to him and also i have found that he has made a profile on a website called snog. What you should do is love yourself and find something constructive to make yourself happy. Then a good quality man will come along and want to in your happiness and you will see that what you have now is a waste of your time and your heart.
Get back out there and explore your options. If somebody really cares for you, they will make much more and better effort than this. Want better, do better. I asked her how does she feel she is ready to be in a relationship with this major issue but she says she wants to Love and to just be patient with her. Help me out if able!! I know this is years ago but I am going through the same thing this guy just described but with a male if you can remember what answer you gave him I would love to hear it.
Ayrhicas yahoo. I would really love to hear an answer for this too. I am in a 12 year relationship with a guy who does the same thing. Then I end up crying to him about it again and I just get the same answers. But he keeps saying he loves me and cares about me. So he can to his family and friends and they will say oh she is such a horrible person for doing that to you.
Things have been up and down and overall I just see that he wants to put in minimal effort for the most payoff which it really a maturity issue. Hell skate by doing bare minimum despite my pleas, cries, loving talks and leading by example to show love without expecting something in return and to just give to another selflessly. Same exact thing 14 years two kids i get nothing but words shows more over playi-g gta u get a response for advice let me know please u still together? He ignored me for 5 weeks and I now regretting went back to him to only jump on the same old merry-go-around in which I have deeply become comfortably numb to until recently.
It only took this long…why? Why is it when we know something is wrong and red flags are going off everywhere, we continue to subject ourselves to such manipulation and abuse?Who loves you but doesn t show it
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